Stop agonizing about how hard life (or something like it) might be, and start actually living and doing it. You'll be a hell of a lot better off.
Trust me, your bellybutton is not a font of wisdom, and you will not find the answers you seek in fear, anxiety, tentativity, or half measures.
Do it, don't do it... whatever you do don't agonize over it.
You don't need to "take control of your own life"... that's just self help book, motivational speaker, dr. Phil, pop psychology bull.
Don't "take control of your life"...
Don't "improve your self actualization"...
Just shut up and live.
That is all.